Have you ever had the misfortune of falling for a Mr Can’t Get Right? You may be asking what or whom is a Mr Can’t Get Right? Well, a Mr Can’t Get Right is a man who is seemingly great at first glance. He’s nice, attractive enough, respectful, he loves the lord and his mama; but he just can’t get anything right. These are the men you meet and are perplexed as to how they haven’t been snatched up yet. On paper, they may seem amazing, but once you get to know them and take a closer look, you’ll soon find out why. They’re handsome, but don’t put enough effort into their grooming. They’re educated, but their reasoning skills show little evidence of it. They’re always working, yet have no career or money to speak of. They’ll have all the necessary ingredients, yet are still unable to prepare a decent meal.
If you or anyone you know has ever been in love with a Mr Can’t Get Right, you might be entitled to financial compensation. Speaking from my own unfortunate experience, loving this type of man will leave you reeling emotionally. They’ll march you up to the top of the mountain and then roll right back down before you even reach the climax. Oh, how I wish I were exaggerating. The entire relationship is one long, unintentional edging session. You will never find satisfaction.
They can never do a single thing right without proper guidance. They project the appearance of being fully functioning adults, but they aren’t, not really. I’ve come to think of it as a failure to thrive. Reminiscent of faltering growth in children. It’s different from weaponized incompetence in that these men do make what they believe is a genuine effort to complete their tasks. They just aren’t good at much of anything, and they don’t possess any critical thinking or problem-solving skills. They aren’t manipulative masterminds operating with malice, they’re just smooth-brained.
The level of gaslighting you’ll put yourself through before you realize, “Yes! They are simply that stupid.”, needs to be studied. My own Mr Can’t Get Right was a contractor. The shelves that he installed in my apartment were crooked, and I still have holes in my wall where he tried (and failed) to mount my TV. I repeat, he was a contractor! He’s fully licensed and everything. I’d think that I was asking for things he was well-equipped to handle, and he’d astonishingly still find a way to disappoint me. That theme persisted heavily throughout our entire relationship.
I’ve learned the hard way that if there’s one thing Mr Can’t Get Right will always succeed at, it’s letting you down. You may feel obligated to keep giving them chances because they genuinely seem remorseful, and even a little pitiful. Don’t do it. It’s a trap. If you continue on this fruitless cycle of failure and forgiveness, you’re signing up to reparent a grown man for the rest of your life. We both know you’ve got better things to do with your time. You’ve got places to go, people to meet, and goals to accomplish. Mr Can’t Get Right will only be an enemy of progress. Do yourself a favor and let go. Cut the invisible cord connecting him to you and channel that energy back into your own life. Just because he’s unable to thrive doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t.